Pamela Jean Shea
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Amesbury,Ma - Although we knew this day was coming, writing this seems so surreal to us.
Pamela Jean lost her life to ovarian cancer on Monday, the 23rd of March 2020, but left behind her spirit that was born on a Thursday the 10th of December in 1959.
Pam, the oldest of four children born to Jean Wade Shea and Neil F Shea, was born and raised in Newburyport.
She was a graduate of Newburyport High School, Class of 1978.
Pam continued her studies at Ithaca College, majoring in communications.
It was the year after college that defined her life when she joined the group Up With People. This non-profit international organization empowers young people through traveling, staying with host families, performing arts, and volunteering to create a more peaceful world. It was during this year that she made lifelong friends, with whom she traveled the world and had the opportunity to perform in the half time show at Super Bowl XVI. She remained extremely close with many of her castmates, especially Billy, LeeAnn, and Lisa from New England.
With a passion for traveling, she pursued a career as a flight attendant for American Airlines based out of New York City. People would frequently ask Pam the question "of all the places you have traveled, where are your most favorite?" Her reply was always the same, "There's no place like New England!"
As much as she enjoyed living in New York, Pam eventually made her way back to Boston to be closer to the love of her life, Michael Vedrani. A true love story it was. Although they had hoped for more time together, they enjoyed 38 beautiful years.
Pam enjoyed each changing season with Michael at their beautiful home on Lake Attitash in Amesbury.
Summertime's were spent barbecuing and enjoying their boat on the lake. Water skiing, tubing, or a slow scenic ride always brought family and friends together. The most memorable of summertime's were their special getaways to "The Ledges," a summer cottage at Salisbury beach. She and Michael shared fond memories of sunrises, coffee on the Lanai, and sipping cocktails under a moon lit sky. Their annual gathering at the Lake for Illumination Night festivities was always a fun way to end the summer and welcome fall, Pam's favorite season of them all.
Winters were just as fun with skating parties, bonfires, and sledding at Woodsom Farm. Storm chases they were, a New England Nor Easter was sure to be followed up by their curiosity to see the massive crashing waves that the rough ocean had created.
Over the years, they enjoyed camping and family ski trips, antiquing trips up the coast of Maine, and their annual trips to the Brimfield Antique Flea Market. An early Sunday morning drive to Todd's Farm was always an adventure.
Pam was just as content to be at home enjoying a home-cooked meal or "the best sandwiches" that Michael made. She enjoyed the simplicity of watching the sunset from their dock while they enjoyed a cocktail and admired the sparkle of the water that the sun cast upon it.
Pam had a smile that comes deep from within with a genuineness that filled your heart. Her glass was always half full and never half empty.
She was unique and added her special touch to everything she did. Whether it was a wrapped gift with a handmade bow or a pot of flowers she had planted, you were sure to see and feel her special touch. Pam's passion for gardening and love for pink and white flowers was evident. Her lime lite hydrangea tree that she viewed from her porch brought her peace and joy.
She had a style that is singular to her clothing. Pam's jewelry and fun hats were sure to receive compliments wherever she went. Her distinct handwriting on a confetti-filled card will remain a great memory to all who received one.
Pam had the ability to connect with people in ways that only she could. Her relationships with family, friends, and co-workers were each treated specially. Millie, my Bernese Mountain dog, also had a special love and connection with her.
Pam enjoyed spending time with friends and many friends she had. Susie, Laurie, Jeanie, Mary-Beth, April, Marla, Ann, and Sarah were her lifelong friends with whom she shared many laughs and created lasting memories. Her times spent picnicking on the beach or having dinner at each other's houses, were always her favorite.
Up until her diagnosis, Pam worked as a customer service representative for a local insurance agency. As her doctors would say," she was the healthiest sick person," who fought cancer with a will unforeseen by many in the medical field. Thank you to Dr. Worley, Dr. Konstantinopoulos, Susanne, Brittany, and the rest of her team at Dana Farber Cancer Institute in Boston.
Her love for life will remain a lasting memory for all who knew her.
In addition to her love, H. Michael Vedrani Jr, Pam leaves behind Stepson Nathan Vedrani, his wife Kelly, and their children, her step-grandchildren Max and Miles Vedrani. Parents Jean and Neil Shea, Brother Neil Shea, and his children Verneesha Shea Bennett, Ryan Shea, and his significant other Kayla, stepson, Richard Stowe and his wife, Lauren; Brother Stephen Shea, and his daughter Erin Shea; Sister Kristin Shea Legault, her husband Todd and their children, her godchildren, Lauren and Matthew Legault; along with two great-nieces and five great-nephews. She also leaves Aunt Janice Richard, Uncle Mike Lago, cousins, Kimberly McCarthy, Kelli True, Jennifer McGibbney, and many additional cousins. Sister-in-law Lynn Vedrani Willis and husband George "Skip," brother-in-law John Dore, Sister-in-law Barbara Vedrani Rowe and husband Terry, brother-in-law Timothy Vedrani and Nanette Porier, Sister-in-law Michele Vedrani Goodrich and husband Gene, as well as many Vedrani nieces, nephews and great-nieces and nephews.
Most importantly left behind, her " favorite family member," a Bernese Mountain dog, Millie Legault.
Pam will be warmly welcomed by those loved ones who went before her. Her maternal grandparents, Alice and Charles "Arnold" Wade, Paternal Grandparents Mary and Cornelius Shea. Aunt Carol Wade Lago, Aunt and Uncle Marjorie Shea Gaines, and E. James Gaines. sister-in-law, Kason Shea, mother, and father-in-law, Blanche and Henry Vedrani and sister-in-law Patricia Vedrani Dore.
A celebration of Pam's life will be held at a later date. Burial will be private.Should family and friends desire, a donation may be made in Pam's name at or sent to Merrimack Valley Hospice, 360 Merrimack St. Bldg. 9 Lawrence, MA 01843.
Published on March 26, 2020


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Meredith Boyd
Apr 02, 2020
Pam was an anmazing person, She treated everyone the same. My condolences to her family and friends. She will be surley missed...
Jason Lago
Mar 31, 2020
I will never forget that contagious smile she had. It reminded me so much of my grandmother, Carol. ❤️
Peter Chetsas
Mar 31, 2020
Pam was one of the kindest people I have ever known.
She will be truly missed.
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Mar 30, 2020
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Stacy Wood Baratelli
Mar 30, 2020
Always beautiful, always smiling. Pam will be forever missed, and ever remembered
To her friends and family, I’m so very sorry for your loss.
George White
Mar 30, 2020
Many years have passed by but In those times that allow us to reflect on life we can remember the good in people. I remember Pans smile and enthusiasm as being her strength. For those that shared her full life be grateful and find comfort in knowing she is at peace
Mary Macdonald Powers
Mar 27, 2020
Sorry to hear of Pam’s passing. We were friends when we were children and in the Yankee Bells Drill Team. I remember her as a person who liked skating, playing the piano and at the time , David Cassidy from the “Partridge Family”. From reading her obituary, it appears she remained the same fun loving, friendly person throughout her life. Sending thoughts of comfort to the many people who loved her and will miss her.
Mary Darling
Mar 27, 2020
I am sending all my love and prayers to Mike and Pam's families . Pam was so full of love and joy. Every time I saw her it was like no time had passed since we last spoke. The world will not be the same without her smiling face. My children always remember hanging at the lake with some of her up with people friends. Love and prayers
Judy Lane
Mar 27, 2020
So sorry for your loss
Pam was a special soul
Marla Fluet
Mar 27, 2020
Every memory I have of Pam is full of love.My heart and prayers go out to All her family and friends and her beloved Michael. She was and still is ,a radiant shining star.Her beautiful essence and energy will carry on in all of our hearts forever.Peace and Love.
michael linsky
Mar 26, 2020
All My Memories were great the nicest warmest friendliest most caring soul I had the pleasure of knowing. It was an honor to have the chance to know such a kind person .when I think of Pam i can only smile through the tears of being sure she has gone to a better place and her suffering is over May my friend rest in peace Love Michael L