Cary (Gray)'s Story
Cary (Gray) Plumer, age 87, of Middletown, Conn., former longtime Newburyport resident, passed peacefully at Maple View Manor in Rocky Hill, Conn., Wednesday morning, January 25, 2017, with her family by her side.
Born in Goshen, N.Y., August 13, 1929, she was the daughter of the late John and Florence (Swasey) Gray. After graduating from high school and receiving her degree as a Licensed Practical Nurse, Cary started her nursing career at the Anna Jaques Hospital in Newburyport, where she met her husband. She was united in marriage to Edward M. Plumer on August 27, 1949.
Together Edward and Cary proudly raised six children. She dedicated herself to their care, proudly raising six children, whom she showered with her unconditional love, teaching them a good work ethic and providing a foundation for doing the right thing and to the best of their ability. She was a safe haven as well as their most honest critic.
Cary was an active member of the Newburyport Unitarian Universalist Church and served on many committees at the church throughout her life. One of her most favorite places was Oldtown Country Club in Newbury, where she spent her summers with her family and many friends, becoming a Lifetime Member of that club. Of Cary’s many passions, she loved gardening and was a member of the Newbury Garden Club. She volunteered at their annual garden events, hosted meetings and shared her love of gardening with her family. Cary was always volunteering in the community, including at the Anna Jaques Hospital, Wheelwright House, Newbury Council on Aging, and serving on the board of the Swasey Fund. In her free time, she could be found with her many friends playing dominos, bowling, and enjoying lunch at the Oldtown Country Club.
Cary is survived by her six children and spouses, John Plumer, Linda and Thomas Small, Lawrence and Deborah Plumer, Nancy Plumer, Leon and Donna Plumer, and James Plumer. Cary was the loving “Grammy” of eight grandchildren and was always in attendance at their special events, Maeve Murray, Nathaniel Small, Dyami Gonsalves, Kevin Plumer, Jason Plumer, Sean Krzykowski, and Kevin Krzykowski. Cary was very proud of and always looked forward to frequent visits from her four great-grandchildren. She was reunited in Heaven with her loving husband, Edward M. Plumer, and granddaughter, Carol Elizabeth Plumer.
A period of visitation will be held Saturday, February 4, 2017, at the Elliott, Woodworth & Rogers Family Funeral Home, 35 Green Street, Newburyport, from 11 a.m. to 12 p.m., immediately followed by funeral services and burial at Belleville Cemetery, Newburyport.
Published on  February 1, 2017